Our brain functions are not set in stone by any particular age; they can change across our entire lifetime. In other words, you can heal from early adversity, even if it’s taken a real toll on you. Here are a few things to consider trying throughout your journey towards healing:
Whether you’re studying for a class, assisting your child with his or her homework, or learning a new hobby, you might need to boost your learning habits. The best thing about this guide is it can be applied to any situation!
Vince and Leona had last seen their grandson Trevor when he was 12 years old and visiting them in Ontario during a summer break. After that visit, Vince and Leona had tried to keep in touch with their grandson in Edmonton through Skype. Each time they were told Trevor wasn’t at home - something that they later realized was a lie.
Michelle was struggling with depression as she was building up the courage to get a divorce. Stuck in an abusive relationship, she felt that she had no control of her life. Even with her husband working out of town Michelle still found herself living with restrictions.
It is unrealistic to think that we can get through life without some sort of emotional pain. As human beings, we all experience challenges that change and form us into the people we are today. Just living in the world presents us with continual risk. It’s when painful memories resurface and cause us continued distress that we need to sit up and pay attention to what’s happening in our lives.
“I never asked for support because I was too ashamed,” says Teresa. “Maybe not really ashamed, but I didn’t want people to judge me. The day I met Sarah, I kind of knew that I was in a good place.”
We all struggle with life’s ups and downs. Usually, you can handle the pitfalls that life throws your way by developing strategies to work through everyday, ordinary worries. However, when things get a little more challenging, many people seek support from a therapist. How do you know that you could benefit from talking to a therapist? Here are some signs that you can look for:
In his 17 years, Blake has been through a lot. The Family Centre and Child and Family Services have supported Blake since he was 3 years old and went to live with his grandmother. After Blake came out as gay, his relationship with his grandmother deteriorated to the point that he was first placed in foster care and later in a group home. The Family Centre and Child and Family Services kept looking for a permanent placement for Blake. Meanwhile, Nick and David were planning to adopt a child. “We had thought about adopting a younger child, but when I saw Blake’s photo and profile on the adoption website, I just got a feeling that he was the one. Nick agreed, so I called the next day to start the process,” David explains.
“No!” he says, with arms crossed, scowling face, and feet planted firmly on the floor. If you’re parenting a strong-willed child, you’ll recognize these signs. Children are born with a number of personality traits and the spirited child is often one of the most difficult personalities to parent. Very often parents end up exhausted, frustrated, and ready to throw in the towel. There are days when parenting seems to be the most difficult job one can undertake.
Talking about addictions is a bit tricky. Most people think immediately of someone who has an addiction to alcohol, drugs, or gambling. However, there is a large body of evidence to indicate that these aren’t the only addictions that people struggle with. Often referred to as “soft” addiction, the release of dopamine in the pleasure centres of the brain is often created through continued repetition of behavior or thinking. Many of us fall into this category, and we aren’t even aware of the consequences of our addiction. Or, for the most part, we live in complete denial because we don’t fall into the category of what people usually think of as an addiction.